i have always been with a bad temper. a little disappointment and i will bitch about that for long. but lately though, i have made conscious efforts to be positive always. sure, shit still happens along the way but what good would that do to you if you dwell on it?and please, dont drag people into your misery. i know some unhappy people who rejoice at seeing people fail. lonely, unattached people feel bitter about their so-called friends who have found happiness with their partners. they even insist on that friend that "hey, he's no good, you better break up with him.. yadayada.."
dealing with various personality types have made me realize a lot of things. good friends also added a great deal of wisdom on how to properly handle such personalities. well sometimes, Sun Tzu also comes in. Haha.
someone not giving you enough attention? let him/her be. why would you insist yourself on someone? let them take their time. and in the process, divert your attention to people or activities that make you happy. and when they come back, you should have had a stronger hold of yourself. a little less clingy perhaps?
for people who are bitter about your happiness, let them rot in their miserable world.haha. you cannot infect positive vibes on a person who chose to be unhappy, period. i heard someone say that its not actually about you but their insecurities that drive them in hating you. so its their issue and not yours. wag mo na lang patulan because in the process you will be dragged in their bitter world too. instead shut them out of your system as much as you could. dont let insecurities and bitterness get into you.
while it may sound hard to remain kind when dealing with difficult personalities, it can actually affect positive results in the end. treat each encounter as a challenge to yourself. on how far your patience would stretch. on how far you can tolerate these people. delight in small wins because in the end that would make them a little hostile towards you.
as i write this, i just had a small victory with a difficult person. she always grills me on things, always on the lookout for my mistakes. she also has a habit of using her authority when she herself commits inconsistencies that i point out. and then today, miracle of all miracles, she somehow agreed to my suggestion over an issue. how did i do that? Kindness kills. :)
dealing with various personality types have made me realize a lot of things. good friends also added a great deal of wisdom on how to properly handle such personalities. well sometimes, Sun Tzu also comes in. Haha.
someone not giving you enough attention? let him/her be. why would you insist yourself on someone? let them take their time. and in the process, divert your attention to people or activities that make you happy. and when they come back, you should have had a stronger hold of yourself. a little less clingy perhaps?
for people who are bitter about your happiness, let them rot in their miserable world.haha. you cannot infect positive vibes on a person who chose to be unhappy, period. i heard someone say that its not actually about you but their insecurities that drive them in hating you. so its their issue and not yours. wag mo na lang patulan because in the process you will be dragged in their bitter world too. instead shut them out of your system as much as you could. dont let insecurities and bitterness get into you.
while it may sound hard to remain kind when dealing with difficult personalities, it can actually affect positive results in the end. treat each encounter as a challenge to yourself. on how far your patience would stretch. on how far you can tolerate these people. delight in small wins because in the end that would make them a little hostile towards you.
as i write this, i just had a small victory with a difficult person. she always grills me on things, always on the lookout for my mistakes. she also has a habit of using her authority when she herself commits inconsistencies that i point out. and then today, miracle of all miracles, she somehow agreed to my suggestion over an issue. how did i do that? Kindness kills. :)
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